As a parent of grown up sons, and a daughter who is a similar age to the victim, the murder case linked below made me think deeply about how I would react if one of my sons was responsible.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-leeds-47912020
Is this is a result of how he was brought up? Is it something in his DNA?
If not what and why?
I take a rather simplistic view of the punishment fitting the crime. A life sentence should mean exactly that, a full life term. The victim does not have a second opportunity so why should the perpetrator? Would I be strong enough to stay with that point of view?
Would I disown him and refuse any further contact?
Whilst every sympathy must go to the victim, her family and friends for what is a devastating event, I do have some sympathy for his family and how this will have shattered their lives. Will they relocate? Change their careers?
As an atheist with some friends of a strong religious faith, their response is largely unanimous around it being God's plan, that the victim will have a special place in Heaven. Really?
I would be interested to hear your thoughts.
Thank you.
What if he was your son or brother?
posted on 19/4/19
I do not think their hell is like that for the victims!..
Like I said, their family member is still alive, the others isn't!..
posted on 19/4/19
As I said.. you have no idea what you are talking about unless you've been through it
posted on 19/4/19
And I said I'm more for the victims family!..
Who do you think is suffering the most?..
posted on 19/4/19
comment by LufcGermany (U6066)
posted 14 minutes ago
And I said I'm more for the victims family!..
Who do you think is suffering the most?..
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It's not about who suffers most, I'm simply correcting you when you say that families of offenders can cope and live normal lives.
Unless you've been in that situation you are unqualified to comment on it.
posted on 19/4/19
"It's not about who suffers most, I'm simply correcting you when you say that families of offenders can cope and live normal lives."
Point out where I have said that please!..
"Unless you've been in that situation you are unqualified to comment on it."
I think anyone saying what they think has a right to comment!..
Like I said in my first post, this is one that'll go on and on!..
X-Army I've seen a bit and I think I know a little more than you think!..
posted on 19/4/19
Point out where I have said that please!..
You asked who suffers most
You also said,
"I do not think their hell is like that for the victims"
And,
"The person committing the crime, their family can cope"
posted on 19/4/19
"X-Army I've seen a bit and I think I know a little more than you think"
Your fellow soldiers caulks in the shower?
posted on 19/4/19
Sorry, that was uncalled for
posted on 19/4/19
"You asked who suffers most"
Is that saying your side don't suffer?..
"I do not think their hell is like that for the victims"
Funny, that's only saying the victims family suffer more!..
"The person committing the crime, their family can cope"
Something like "their family can cope better"!..
Or do you think they can cope as well with one they've lost?..
I said it can go on and on, here's the pruf!..
So, you stay by your's I'll stay by mine!..
And yes, that last comment is the bollox you seem to play with!..
posted on 19/4/19
When you have a family member who's committed a serious crime, it changes your opinion of them and your feelings towards them.
It's equivalent to losing them as you realise that the person who you thought they were is not who they are.
It changes other people's opinions of you as a family.. "How did they not know?" "There must be a reason why they turned our like that" "If he's capable of that, what are his family capable of" etc.
There's never any support for families of serious offenders. Completely forgotten about and just expected to carry on as if nothings changed.