if that's the correct word ( I know but it's 9.30pm here) I thought I would share what makes a happy life.
Now as I am a straight man this advice is for similar people, I have nothing whatsoever against women, or transgenders or otherwise, but as I am not one I'm not qualified to pass on my opinions.
First. Think what you really enjoy and get a job that is related to some degree. For example you may be no good at footie but there are a lot of jobs connected with it.
You may like buildings (me) but don't have the wherewithall to be an architect, but try draughtsman, or town planner etc;
If you get something connected with what you love it won't feel like work.
Second. Spend all your wild oats before you get married, then find someone you really like. Long after the lust has gone you will still enjoy being with that person.
Don't get divorced, you will either feel bitter or guilty and neither is good.
Third. Don't smoke.
Fourth. Buy your own place, no matter what. A one bed flat you own is better than a two bed semi you rent. It's not just an investment, one is a home, one isn't.
Have kids, if possible. They will change your life and you as a person. And all for the better.
Save up for your pension.Unless you are unlucky you will live much longer, retirement is one of the best times of your life, unless you are poor.
Any changes in your body see your doctor, most things can be sorted if caught early, it's not hard ignoring it, it's stupid.
Be kind to people, they will be nice to you. Try and make the world a better place, not a worse one.
So there you have it, more ramblings for you all to ignore, but it worked for me.
So as I am nicely mellow
posted on 23/10/19
Anyway, my advice to the young guns here.... Do anything you can to save £5k, pack a single bag and go and survive as long as you can on the road in south east Asia or some other place that will challenge you and help you understand that the normal, consumption led way of life is not the only way.
posted on 23/10/19
comment by Ji Sung Park's Cousin - Ole's joy Manticore (U2958)
posted 4 minutes ago
Anyway, my advice to the young guns here.... Do anything you can to save £5k, pack a single bag and go and survive as long as you can on the road in south east Asia or some other place that will challenge you and help you understand that the normal, consumption led way of life is not the only way.
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posted on 23/10/19
Meant to say agreed with ji, great advice..
posted on 23/10/19
I agree with that but it is obviously not sustainable in the long run. Getting a good balance long term is the way forward, surrounding yourself with the right people as well.
posted on 23/10/19
Anyway, my advice to the young guns here.... Do anything you can to save £5k, pack a single bag and go and survive as long as you can on the road in south east Asia or some other place that will challenge you and help you understand that the normal, consumption led way of life is not the only way.
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Agreed. Last month I actually spent a few nights in the desert in Jordan, slept in a cave too. Wow life for these people is different but I loved it, and the night sky with no light pollution, every star can be seen, such an amazing sight, was it easy, hell no the heat was 45 degrees. The way I see it, there's more to a holiday then getting pi$$ed up every day, sitting on the beach or whatever, go out there and experience what the world has.
posted on 23/10/19
All that comes under the wild oats category.
I should have phrased it as have your wild period before settling down.
Also there's busy happy, ie working, kids, jobs at the weekend, getting on at work, footie, mates, hobbies.
And there's idle happy, mooching, sitting and reading, walk in the country, footie with the kids, meal out.
posted on 23/10/19
What happens if you like the wild oats a lot? Is there a certain age where I have to give up my wild oats? And why?
posted on 23/10/19
Not at all Barry. As I said it worked for me, it may not work for you. Some people enjoy a wild life, never want to settle down, and that fine, this isn't an instruction manual.
But, I think, many like the idea of a life as described, so this was for them.
posted on 23/10/19
Solid advice 52, and no preaching. I facked up and married younger, beautiful women I met as a musician - which is a farce because they don't fall in love with you, but with an illusion. Such is life, but I did have 2 kids I'm still close with, one who still lives with me. Owning a flat is key to survival into retirement as well. I'm set up to retire in a few years without financial worries. Great article for the younger lads
posted on 23/10/19
I think the western world human life guidance needs to be re-structured to be honest. Rip it up and start again. The world has changed and people's need to follow this guidance is leading to a large proportion of humans being unhappy.