Couldn’t post earlier .... sorry for your loss. Really touching words from you. I’ve no personal experience to share, but keep those friends and family close by. Thoughts with you. Chin up
Stay strong. Hopefully this place can give you some comfort. 👍
comment by A14... ( ليدز_يونايتد )You gotta love it!! (U2805)
posted 9 minutes ago
Couldn’t post earlier .... sorry for your loss. Really touching words from you. I’ve no personal experience to share, but keep those friends and family close by. Thoughts with you. Chin up
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Thank you A14.
comment by MaHeed'sNippin aka I’m the competent Wullie Collum (U3633)
posted 4 minutes ago
Stay strong. Hopefully this place can give you some comfort. 👍
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This site has always been a place of comfort for me. The vast majority of posters here are warm, kind and compassionate human beings. Thank you for your thoughts.
Sorry to hear about your loss mate
comment by (K̇ash) I'm the Mané - PL Champione (U1108)
posted 3 minutes ago
Sorry to hear about your loss mate
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Thank you for your kind thoughts.
wilko, try just be you & maybe do what ever you feel is right, your pain is yours & none of us know, yes we can guess but cannot do anything except share comfort & empathy
Sgt Wilko 92, Very sorry for your loss.
The cherished memories that you both made together will give you strength.
and yes, The Ja Family is here, always.
Peace.
Sorry for you loss, can’t imagine what you’re going through,
I don't know you, have never met you and likely, never will. I'm not entirely sure about why you felt the need to post about such a personal tragedy on here as I would hope you could find the solace you need with your close family and friends.
However, having read all the replies on here, and one in particular, I do hope that they have helped you. I understand the only thing that can help you feel better is something that is impossible for you to now have. Your wife. But some things do endure. Your love for her, your memories of her. Your precious times together. You will never lose those and they can never be taken away from you.
To a complete stranger - good luck with the rest of your life. My only advice is to grieve, grieve and grieve again. Do it. Don't be at all ashamed. It will heal you, a little bit, in time. And then in more time, a little bit more.
This may sound odd, but you may want to watch the Ricky Gervais series 'Afterlife' on Netflix. It deals with the loss of a cherished partner in the most beautiful way I've ever seen. It will make you laugh and cry uncontrollably. It will help you, I think.
💙
I'm so sorry for your loss and like others have said the love you shared with your beloved wife is never ending and utterly beautiful. It's what life is all about and I personally believe she will be looking down on you and wanting you to stay strong as hard as it is at the moment and keep going. Cry like there's no tomorrow, get it all out and you will get through this.
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Saw the OP quite late the other day and found it quite heartbreaking, Sgt. Whilst it's not common for people to share such personal information with a general forum, I'm so glad you did and have been able to draw some superb support from some of the brilliant guys on here. Nothing much more I can add to what people have already said other than my sincere condolences mate x
Wilko, take care and look after yourself!.
... think you touched a lot of hearts Sarge
blokes are getting better at talking about feelings, I’m sure everyone feels some relief from knowing that even a few words on a forum can provide some support, however little, in a time of terrible grief for you. Take good care of yourself and loved ones.
Glad you managed to find some comfort from the kind people on this forum. Keep in touch on here and keep talking if that's what's helps.
I know it's no comparison, but I lost my dog in farm accident 6 months ago, just doing what he loved doing and it really hit me hard, he was with me every day for 7 years. It made me think of how lucky I am to have a wife and kids and I never really thought about the day one of has to say goodbye. We really have to make the most and it sounds like you had a great life together, what else can you do other than that.
I visited my parents graves on Friday.
My Dad died in 91 my mum died in 2001.
I was in absolute bits. The grief does not subside when something like visting them brings it back.
The grief is normal it is inescapable for all of us the only ones who will never have it are young kids who die early but then that grief they might have had in their lives is transferred to their parents.
Just a hitting home that experiencing grief is part of the human condition, we can’t avoid it We can only try and find the good memories and manage it through time and new connections.
It’s really hard wilko, nothing any of us can do or say will really help except to know that when things are at their worst, people are at their best.
I hope we have another thread from you at some point sharing your funny and heartwarming stories of your wife so we see what wonderful memories you made together.
Best wishes.
jonty ffs, this is not about you, we all could real off stuff, get a life
In fairness to jonty, hes sharing his experience and that can help others so bit unfair to have a go at him.
I lost my best mate when he was only 21 and that really hit me hard. So I can imagine how hard it must be to lose someone that you've spent so much of your life with.
Again just echoing the thoughts of everyone on here and just remember that time does heal, even though it might not feel like it just now.
Have a good cry, let it out and try and continue with your life as best you can. She wouldn't want you grueving.
Best wishes and again condolences ♥️
I am glad that you are finding the posts people have made some help Wilko.
In respect of Jonty's comment I can only see someone offering support and their perspective so really taken aback by that comment made by Kamara and in my opinion one of harshest things I have read on here in a long long time..
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comment by Zachsda( There’s a bus Neil, quick throw them under it ) (U1850)
posted 24 seconds ago
comment by kamara's left foot (U21862)
posted 1 hour, 29 minutes ago
jonty ffs, this is not about you, we all could real off stuff, get a life
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Bit harsh
Many on here have given examples of awful events that they have learned to live with.
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have they?
comment by Joe-ny Stokes is my da (U15888)
posted 18 minutes ago
In fairness to jonty, hes sharing his experience and that can help others so bit unfair to have a go at him.
I lost my best mate when he was only 21 and that really hit me hard. So I can imagine how hard it must be to lose someone that you've spent so much of your life with.
Again just echoing the thoughts of everyone on here and just remember that time does heal, even though it might not feel like it just now.
Have a good cry, let it out and try and continue with your life as best you can. She wouldn't want you grueving.
Best wishes and again condolences ♥️
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posted on 5/9/20
Couldn’t post earlier .... sorry for your loss. Really touching words from you. I’ve no personal experience to share, but keep those friends and family close by. Thoughts with you. Chin up
posted on 5/9/20
Stay strong. Hopefully this place can give you some comfort. 👍
posted on 5/9/20
comment by A14... ( ليدز_يونايتد )You gotta love it!! (U2805)
posted 9 minutes ago
Couldn’t post earlier .... sorry for your loss. Really touching words from you. I’ve no personal experience to share, but keep those friends and family close by. Thoughts with you. Chin up
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Thank you A14.
posted on 5/9/20
comment by MaHeed'sNippin aka I’m the competent Wullie Collum (U3633)
posted 4 minutes ago
Stay strong. Hopefully this place can give you some comfort. 👍
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This site has always been a place of comfort for me. The vast majority of posters here are warm, kind and compassionate human beings. Thank you for your thoughts.
posted on 5/9/20
Sorry to hear about your loss mate
posted on 5/9/20
comment by (K̇ash) I'm the Mané - PL Champione (U1108)
posted 3 minutes ago
Sorry to hear about your loss mate
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Thank you for your kind thoughts.
posted on 5/9/20
wilko, try just be you & maybe do what ever you feel is right, your pain is yours & none of us know, yes we can guess but cannot do anything except share comfort & empathy
posted on 5/9/20
Sgt Wilko 92, Very sorry for your loss.
The cherished memories that you both made together will give you strength.
and yes, The Ja Family is here, always.
Peace.
posted on 5/9/20
Sorry for you loss, can’t imagine what you’re going through,
posted on 5/9/20
I don't know you, have never met you and likely, never will. I'm not entirely sure about why you felt the need to post about such a personal tragedy on here as I would hope you could find the solace you need with your close family and friends.
However, having read all the replies on here, and one in particular, I do hope that they have helped you. I understand the only thing that can help you feel better is something that is impossible for you to now have. Your wife. But some things do endure. Your love for her, your memories of her. Your precious times together. You will never lose those and they can never be taken away from you.
To a complete stranger - good luck with the rest of your life. My only advice is to grieve, grieve and grieve again. Do it. Don't be at all ashamed. It will heal you, a little bit, in time. And then in more time, a little bit more.
This may sound odd, but you may want to watch the Ricky Gervais series 'Afterlife' on Netflix. It deals with the loss of a cherished partner in the most beautiful way I've ever seen. It will make you laugh and cry uncontrollably. It will help you, I think.
💙
posted on 5/9/20
I'm so sorry for your loss and like others have said the love you shared with your beloved wife is never ending and utterly beautiful. It's what life is all about and I personally believe she will be looking down on you and wanting you to stay strong as hard as it is at the moment and keep going. Cry like there's no tomorrow, get it all out and you will get through this.
posted on 5/9/20
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posted on 5/9/20
Saw the OP quite late the other day and found it quite heartbreaking, Sgt. Whilst it's not common for people to share such personal information with a general forum, I'm so glad you did and have been able to draw some superb support from some of the brilliant guys on here. Nothing much more I can add to what people have already said other than my sincere condolences mate x
posted on 5/9/20
We are all Sgt. Wilko.
posted on 5/9/20
Wilko, take care and look after yourself!.
posted on 5/9/20
... think you touched a lot of hearts Sarge
blokes are getting better at talking about feelings, I’m sure everyone feels some relief from knowing that even a few words on a forum can provide some support, however little, in a time of terrible grief for you. Take good care of yourself and loved ones.
posted on 5/9/20
Glad you managed to find some comfort from the kind people on this forum. Keep in touch on here and keep talking if that's what's helps.
I know it's no comparison, but I lost my dog in farm accident 6 months ago, just doing what he loved doing and it really hit me hard, he was with me every day for 7 years. It made me think of how lucky I am to have a wife and kids and I never really thought about the day one of has to say goodbye. We really have to make the most and it sounds like you had a great life together, what else can you do other than that.
posted on 6/9/20
I visited my parents graves on Friday.
My Dad died in 91 my mum died in 2001.
I was in absolute bits. The grief does not subside when something like visting them brings it back.
The grief is normal it is inescapable for all of us the only ones who will never have it are young kids who die early but then that grief they might have had in their lives is transferred to their parents.
Just a hitting home that experiencing grief is part of the human condition, we can’t avoid it We can only try and find the good memories and manage it through time and new connections.
It’s really hard wilko, nothing any of us can do or say will really help except to know that when things are at their worst, people are at their best.
I hope we have another thread from you at some point sharing your funny and heartwarming stories of your wife so we see what wonderful memories you made together.
Best wishes.
posted on 6/9/20
jonty ffs, this is not about you, we all could real off stuff, get a life
posted on 6/9/20
In fairness to jonty, hes sharing his experience and that can help others so bit unfair to have a go at him.
I lost my best mate when he was only 21 and that really hit me hard. So I can imagine how hard it must be to lose someone that you've spent so much of your life with.
Again just echoing the thoughts of everyone on here and just remember that time does heal, even though it might not feel like it just now.
Have a good cry, let it out and try and continue with your life as best you can. She wouldn't want you grueving.
Best wishes and again condolences ♥️
posted on 6/9/20
I am glad that you are finding the posts people have made some help Wilko.
In respect of Jonty's comment I can only see someone offering support and their perspective so really taken aback by that comment made by Kamara and in my opinion one of harshest things I have read on here in a long long time..
posted on 6/9/20
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posted on 6/9/20
comment by Zachsda( There’s a bus Neil, quick throw them under it ) (U1850)
posted 24 seconds ago
comment by kamara's left foot (U21862)
posted 1 hour, 29 minutes ago
jonty ffs, this is not about you, we all could real off stuff, get a life
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Bit harsh
Many on here have given examples of awful events that they have learned to live with.
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have they?
posted on 6/9/20
comment by Joe-ny Stokes is my da (U15888)
posted 18 minutes ago
In fairness to jonty, hes sharing his experience and that can help others so bit unfair to have a go at him.
I lost my best mate when he was only 21 and that really hit me hard. So I can imagine how hard it must be to lose someone that you've spent so much of your life with.
Again just echoing the thoughts of everyone on here and just remember that time does heal, even though it might not feel like it just now.
Have a good cry, let it out and try and continue with your life as best you can. She wouldn't want you grueving.
Best wishes and again condolences ♥️
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hmmmmmmmmmm
posted on 6/9/20
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