ahh man its good to talk somewhere

I know its simple solution but if you feel this way your GP could be a good start to get you the support you need.

Good luck mate

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Yeah what Pranks said, I'd always suggest speaking to your GP to get the ball rolling. Good luck

Keep talking to people about it mate and if your preference is this forum then that is no problem at all.

It may not seem it right now but there will be light at the end of the tunnel.

If there’s something you need, put the message out there and I’m sure the forum community can help via the people who run the site.

Maybe consider having a chat with someone professional when you can - even anonymously.

Take care

Sounds as if you've got depression, Scunner. There's a lot of it about. G P can help. Hang in there

As mentioned, speaking to your GP is a great option. They can offer a medication route or a route where you speak to someone privately and try to talk things through.

Takes some balls to open up about these things, credit to you.

Exercising daily is a great boost as well.

Scunner dude, make an appointment with your gp, ask them to refer you for talking therapies. Do it all by phone
/video link nowadays. Real men talk nowadays. I have had therapy. It helps.

GP should try to avoid putting you on meds, poor approach, not really helping you with the cause.

Like my ex-mother-in-law used to say when she farted, which was often: "it's better out than in"!

It's always good if you can express how you're feeling, Scunner. It's very good of you not to want to add to your wife's burden but you would probably find she has a good idea already and would want to help you share the burden. You're in this together, after all.

And it's not surprising that negativity can sometimes overpower you. It's a crazy world and getting crazier by the minute. Lots of people are struggling to make sense of the way we are living. You are definitely not alone.

Cal is absolutely right: the passage of time helps. Just take each day, each week as it comes and try not to join up any dots. The bigger picture you try to make will be a false one if you are struggling. It seems like the more you try to make sense of things, the more difficult it gets to see clearly. I find just focusing on the everyday helps, rather than trying to see any big picture.

Good luck with it, in any case. Depression is horrible. Whatever you do, don't hit the bottle - it only makes things worse. Maybe go talk to your doctor about it, as Prankster suggests? It's nothing to be ashamed of and plenty seek help that way.

I feel exactly the same way mate. Just feel like giving up ya know.

comment by Mo Salahhhhh Egyptian King 👑 (U8829)
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I feel exactly the same way mate. Just feel like giving up ya know.
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Oh mate, if you ever want a chat I would be happy to be of help if I could be

Same for the OP

Best suggestion to start with though is speak with your GP

I hope Leeds will go up and it will cheer you up a bit.

Good luck with this.

I've just asked admins if they any protocol for this or advice as it's a serious matter

OP it’s a very tough time and if you were carrying any depression around it doesn’t surprise me it’s coming to the fore now.

I know you said you didn’t want to bother your wife but the chances are she has or will pick up on it. She will be anxious to help you and I hope you can confide in her eventually.

Take care my bud....

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I've just asked admins if they any protocol for this or advice as it's a serious matter
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I'm very ignorant to be offering up any advice. There are people on here who suffer from have or do suffer depression who are better placed. OP you are welcome to chat openly on here and many people are here for you if you need advice or just an ear to listen.

https://www.ja606.co.uk/articles/viewArticle/379662

This thread is one that I know of.

comment by Aggers Right Elbow (U3402)
posted 1 minute ago
OP it’s a very tough time and if you were carrying any depression around it doesn’t surprise me it’s coming to the fore now.

I know you said you didn’t want to bother your wife but the chances are she has or will pick up on it. She will be anxious to help you and I hope you can confide in her eventually.

Take care my bud....
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Totally agree here on speaking to your Wife.
I suffered from depression and anxiety and was constantly drinking to try and help and was in a real dark place.
Finally spoke to my missus and it was the best thing i could ever have done. She completely changed my life and helped turn things round for me.

May I also suggest contacting the Samaritans: https://www.samaritans.org/

And anyone who has some spare pennies, you can donate online.

My closest friend suffers from depression. When he’s in a bad way he just shuts everyone out, but I just make sure he talks it out with me and it always helps bring him round (over a period of time) and he always thanks me for it.

Chat with your closest friend about it pal, it will certainly help even if you feel like it won’t and it’s the last thing you want to do.

Someone else mentioned seeing your GP which is a great shout as they’re really well trained to help and support where they can

Take care buddy.

You shoukd definitely speak to your wife. I had depression and really bad anxiety, finding new ways I could be dying for several years until my wife broke down in tears as she couldn't take it anymore. Since we spoke about it things have been great. Trying to bottle this up and put it to the back of your mind is what most of us do and it has never worked for anybody. The best thing you can do is to get it out, share the load. It will become easier to the point you can see happiness in things again and gradually get better. Only thing I found happiness in was football and beer and now I'm basically back to myself again.

Don't bottle it up, it has never worked!

OP if you wish to email anyone on here privately, im happy to act as a go between in term of sharing email addresses, provided the recipient is also happy to share their email address. The site(more importantly the users on here ) are here for you.

Hope you get the help you need mate - no harm in a quick call to your GP so they can guide you in the right direction

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Hey we all go through phases where we can't explain it but the motivation is not there.
I have been there just a few days ago. I couldn't find any motivation to even be bothered to live!

I didn't thin about killing myself no thank God no!

I gave myself time to heal, and that's why I didn't even come to Ja606 for a while.

I gave time to myself, and decided to list our all the reasons why I should be cheerful. Then I found things that I had forgotten or were there but didn't see them!

In the end, I kept telling myself hey I have this or I can do that, hey it's all good....Slowly I got out of it, though I had a relapse but hoping I'll get out it again.

While you have health, think how much better off you are from someone who might be lying in hospital after a trauma.
When you think you are in a bad situation, think of those who are in even worse situation, then realise hey it' not that bad. Hey it's not that bad!.

Hope you get out of it soon

as admin says If you need to chat to someone there are folk here who can help, including myself, who have experience.
You've made the 1st important step by coming on here and to speak to others will help you for sure.

Take care and remember It's good to talk