Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
Great that you are raising this subject, Diafol. A couple of other people on this forum (inappropriate to name them unless they want to participate in this thread) have alluded to struggling with mental health over the years. We gents (I assume most of us on 606 are male - obviously don't want to exclude any women from this or any other discussion) tend to be bad at sharing their troubles, which isn't at all healthy. I hope anyone reading this thread feels there's no stigma if they want to talk.
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
Op great idea for a thread. Lots of people suffer in silence..
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posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
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It’s not easy, and I take it way too seriously and probably do too much but I really do love it and it helps me a huge amount. I’d always say to anyone give it 3 months and see if it helps, might do might not but it’s worth a shot.
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posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
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Outdoor running/cycling, get some vit d and fresh air too.
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 8 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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As a fat boring sod myself I find this post slightly insulting.
comment by Ole-Dirty-Baztard (U19119)
posted 2 seconds ago
comment by Red Russian (U4715)
posted 1 minute ago
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
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Outdoor running/cycling, get some vit d and fresh air too.
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Completely agree. During lockdown I made myself take a walk each day otherwise it would be easy to stay at home for one week at a time.
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posted 8 seconds ago
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 8 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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As a fat boring sod myself I find this post slightly insulting.
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posted 1 minute ago
comment by Red Russian (U4715)
posted 30 seconds ago
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
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It’s not easy, and I take it way too seriously and probably do too muchbut I really do love it and it helps me a huge amount. I’d always say to anyone give it 3 months and see if it helps, might do might not but it’s worth a shot.
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I tend to try and do 5,6 days a week, and I find it helps with loads of stuff, especially stress. In fact I feel bad if I DONT do it!
comment by Ole-Dirty-Baztard (U19119)
posted 1 minute ago
Opgreat idea for a thread. Lots of people suffer in silence..
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Unfortunately far too many do and as RR alluded to men (although they are getting better) are still quite poor at bringing this to the fore.
There still seems to be a stigma attached to a "man" showing weakness and asking for help with mental health issues.
There still in done circles seems to be a just get on with it attitude with men
I've come to realise there's no point suffering in silence and that it's not weak to admit to being troubled.
I'm slowly seeing how talking can help and I hope other can too.
Exercise is certainly a good way of making yourself feel better and, during this lockdown, the OH has found some solace in gardening (a new hobby) and walking the dog. She also finds solace in me going to another room to sit for a few hours too which has suited me with all the football on recently!
I did a lot of running during lockdown and felt a lot better for it, no particular goal in mind, just to see a gradual improvement on 5 or 10k times.
Went for a run today for the first time in over a month, lost motivation as my work pattern changed significantly, and felt awful
comment by Diafol Coch 77 (U2462)
posted 3 minutes ago
I've come to realise there's no point suffering in silence and that it's not weak to admit to being troubled.
I'm slowly seeing how talking can help and I hope other can too.
Exercise is certainly a good way of making yourself feel better and, during this lockdown, the OH has found some solace in gardening (a new hobby) and walking the dog. She also finds solace in me going to another room to sit for a few hours too which has suited me with all the football on recently!
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You call her the other half.
I call Mrs Irish "the leader of the opposition"
Another thing that’s quite cliche but has helped me massively is getting rid of the toxic people in your life. It’s easier said than done, but everyone has those friends (or partners) that get to drag you down to their level when a good friend does the complete opposite.
Surround yourself with good people and chances are things will be alright
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comment by Diafol Coch 77 (U2462)
posted 3 minutes ago
I've come to realise there's no point suffering in silence and that it's not weak to admit to being troubled.
I'm slowly seeing how talking can help and I hope other can too.
Exercise is certainly a good way of making yourself feel better and, during this lockdown, the OH has found some solace in gardening (a new hobby) and walking the dog. She also finds solace in me going to another room to sit for a few hours too which has suited me with all the football on recently!
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You call her the other half.
I call Mrs Irish "the leader of the opposition"
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I bet she always holds the balance of power!
Timely article. A very good mate who now lives in Canada messaged me yesterday saying he’s having a 5hit time at the moment (few months after splitting with his girlfriend) and thought he’d reach out. I’ve had a pretty wild year myself and it was great to reconnect and talk through stuff even though it may of not been under the circumstances either of us would of necessarily preferred!
Tough topic to raise. Well done.
My other half also suffers from mental health issues (depression and anxiety mainly) and has an ongoing prescription for anti-depressants.
She uses exercise as an outlet and it has a noticeable effect (she went through a difficult patch when lockdown first came in and the gym closed). I do my best to encourage her to do activities that make her feel better and to be supportive. It can be difficult sometimes to understand how others are feeling, and sometimes I worry that I'm not very good at helping but you just keep trying
Brilliant article. There are many times when I struggle with my mental health. I really should open up a bit more because I bottle these things up and the missus usually ends up taking the brunt when it all comes out.
My step daughter suffers from Bi Polar.
She isn’t as bat $hit.crazy as Kanye West is but would be if her current trick cyclist hadn’t found that she had been incorrectly diagnosed previously and changed her meds.
Don't suffer and never have but I realise i'm lucky, I second ever word of whats already been said about reaching out, exercise and stigma.
This forum is anonymous and I think full of ordinary blokes who, might indulge the occasional wind-up, I'm pretty sure would back up any fellow poster if they wanted to talk.
Good OP.
I've had drug induced mental disorders for over 25 years now, double stigma! The amount of GPs that look down their nose at you when you mention that drugs (mainly LSD and MDMA) are the causes of your issues is quite stunning really (and very sad). I'm lucky enough to be able to afford private health care now.. I dread to think how my situation might have spiralled out of control if I had just given in to my first GP who treated me like something she had stood in.
comment by Ji Sung Park's Cousin - Ole's joy Manticore (U2958)
posted 1 minute ago
I've had drug induced mental disorders for over 25 years now, double stigma! The amount of GPs that look down their nose at you when you mention that drugs (mainly LSD and MDMA) are the causes of your issues is quite stunning really (and very sad). I'm lucky enough to be able to afford private health care now.. I dread to think how my situation might have spiralled out of control if I had just given in to my first GP who treated me like something she had stood in.
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Over here if you don't have private health insurance you won't get seen in the public system unless you are displaying stigmata or bleeding from the eyes
comment by welshpoolfan (U7693)
posted 12 minutes ago
Tough topic to raise. Well done.
My other half also suffers from mental health issues (depression and anxiety mainly) and has an ongoing prescription for anti-depressants.
She uses exercise as an outlet and it has a noticeable effect (she went through a difficult patch when lockdown first came in and the gym closed). I do my best to encourage her to do activities that make her feel better and to be supportive. It can be difficult sometimes to understand how others are feeling, and sometimes I worry that I'm not very good at helping but you just keep trying
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Your last sentence rings so true. Sometimes it'd be easier if she'd be in a wheelchair or something with regards knowing what you need to do on a daily basis. You do keep trying though although I will admit to feeling, at times, that I could do without the bother. That soon goes to be replaced by feelings of guilt for even thinking that.
comment by Diafol Coch 77 (U2462)
posted 2 minutes ago
comment by welshpoolfan (U7693)
posted 12 minutes ago
Tough topic to raise. Well done.
My other half also suffers from mental health issues (depression and anxiety mainly) and has an ongoing prescription for anti-depressants.
She uses exercise as an outlet and it has a noticeable effect (she went through a difficult patch when lockdown first came in and the gym closed). I do my best to encourage her to do activities that make her feel better and to be supportive. It can be difficult sometimes to understand how others are feeling, and sometimes I worry that I'm not very good at helping but you just keep trying
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Your last sentence rings so true. Sometimes it'd be easier if she'd be in a wheelchair or something with regards knowing what you need to do on a daily basis. You do keep trying though although I will admit to feeling, at times, that I could do without the bother. That soon goes to be replaced by feelings of guilt for even thinking that.
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I can't speak for everyone, but for me... Just having people around who are willing to put up with my bad spells is just amazing. I feel guilt for not being able to do certain things (like social events) or just not being able to communicate well etc... I also fully understand when she gets frustrated and needs a break from it all.
Just keep on supporting them, you are both doing great in your partners minds', i'm sure.
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posted on 7/8/20
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
posted on 7/8/20
Great that you are raising this subject, Diafol. A couple of other people on this forum (inappropriate to name them unless they want to participate in this thread) have alluded to struggling with mental health over the years. We gents (I assume most of us on 606 are male - obviously don't want to exclude any women from this or any other discussion) tend to be bad at sharing their troubles, which isn't at all healthy. I hope anyone reading this thread feels there's no stigma if they want to talk.
posted on 7/8/20
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
posted on 7/8/20
Op great idea for a thread. Lots of people suffer in silence..
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Red Russian (U4715)
posted 30 seconds ago
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
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It’s not easy, and I take it way too seriously and probably do too much but I really do love it and it helps me a huge amount. I’d always say to anyone give it 3 months and see if it helps, might do might not but it’s worth a shot.
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Red Russian (U4715)
posted 1 minute ago
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
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Outdoor running/cycling, get some vit d and fresh air too.
posted on 7/8/20
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 8 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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As a fat boring sod myself I find this post slightly insulting.
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Ole-Dirty-Baztard (U19119)
posted 2 seconds ago
comment by Red Russian (U4715)
posted 1 minute ago
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
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Outdoor running/cycling, get some vit d and fresh air too.
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Completely agree. During lockdown I made myself take a walk each day otherwise it would be easy to stay at home for one week at a time.
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Don Draper's dandruff (U20155)
posted 8 seconds ago
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 8 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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As a fat boring sod myself I find this post slightly insulting.
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posted on 7/8/20
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 1 minute ago
comment by Red Russian (U4715)
posted 30 seconds ago
comment by vidicthelegend VIVA LA REVOLUTION (U8735)
posted 2 minutes ago
Afternoon OP
I’m 28, and spent a lot of my early to mid 20’s suffering with my mental health. My father dying when I was 21 didn’t help, but wasn’t the underlying cause.
Anyway when I was about 25 I kind of said to myself ‘give it everything you’ve got’ as a sort of last ditch attempt to be contempt. I started running, and then turned to CrossFit and my entire life has changed. Granted things are by no means perfect but I’ve gone from a fat boring sod to a healthy person who trains a hell of a lot (almost obsessively) and has a wonderful group of friends that help a great deal.
I tried all sorts before this and the thing that’s helped the most is regular exercise, having a goal and finding something I greatly enjoy as an outlet. I’d recommend trying a similar thing to everyone as I can’t explain the difference being physically healthy does to your mental health.
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I applaud you for this, VTL.
I know running / fitness can make a huge difference to the mental wellbeing for lots of people. (Personally, I've always fooking hated exercise that's not incidental to a sport. I love running around playing football but I loathe running; quite enjoy cycling but get bored on a cycling machine.)
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It’s not easy, and I take it way too seriously and probably do too muchbut I really do love it and it helps me a huge amount. I’d always say to anyone give it 3 months and see if it helps, might do might not but it’s worth a shot.
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I tend to try and do 5,6 days a week, and I find it helps with loads of stuff, especially stress. In fact I feel bad if I DONT do it!
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Ole-Dirty-Baztard (U19119)
posted 1 minute ago
Opgreat idea for a thread. Lots of people suffer in silence..
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Unfortunately far too many do and as RR alluded to men (although they are getting better) are still quite poor at bringing this to the fore.
There still seems to be a stigma attached to a "man" showing weakness and asking for help with mental health issues.
There still in done circles seems to be a just get on with it attitude with men
posted on 7/8/20
I've come to realise there's no point suffering in silence and that it's not weak to admit to being troubled.
I'm slowly seeing how talking can help and I hope other can too.
Exercise is certainly a good way of making yourself feel better and, during this lockdown, the OH has found some solace in gardening (a new hobby) and walking the dog. She also finds solace in me going to another room to sit for a few hours too which has suited me with all the football on recently!
posted on 7/8/20
I did a lot of running during lockdown and felt a lot better for it, no particular goal in mind, just to see a gradual improvement on 5 or 10k times.
Went for a run today for the first time in over a month, lost motivation as my work pattern changed significantly, and felt awful
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Diafol Coch 77 (U2462)
posted 3 minutes ago
I've come to realise there's no point suffering in silence and that it's not weak to admit to being troubled.
I'm slowly seeing how talking can help and I hope other can too.
Exercise is certainly a good way of making yourself feel better and, during this lockdown, the OH has found some solace in gardening (a new hobby) and walking the dog. She also finds solace in me going to another room to sit for a few hours too which has suited me with all the football on recently!
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You call her the other half.
I call Mrs Irish "the leader of the opposition"
posted on 7/8/20
Another thing that’s quite cliche but has helped me massively is getting rid of the toxic people in your life. It’s easier said than done, but everyone has those friends (or partners) that get to drag you down to their level when a good friend does the complete opposite.
Surround yourself with good people and chances are things will be alright
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Irishred (U2539)
posted 2 minutes ago
comment by Diafol Coch 77 (U2462)
posted 3 minutes ago
I've come to realise there's no point suffering in silence and that it's not weak to admit to being troubled.
I'm slowly seeing how talking can help and I hope other can too.
Exercise is certainly a good way of making yourself feel better and, during this lockdown, the OH has found some solace in gardening (a new hobby) and walking the dog. She also finds solace in me going to another room to sit for a few hours too which has suited me with all the football on recently!
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You call her the other half.
I call Mrs Irish "the leader of the opposition"
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I bet she always holds the balance of power!
posted on 7/8/20
Timely article. A very good mate who now lives in Canada messaged me yesterday saying he’s having a 5hit time at the moment (few months after splitting with his girlfriend) and thought he’d reach out. I’ve had a pretty wild year myself and it was great to reconnect and talk through stuff even though it may of not been under the circumstances either of us would of necessarily preferred!
posted on 7/8/20
Tough topic to raise. Well done.
My other half also suffers from mental health issues (depression and anxiety mainly) and has an ongoing prescription for anti-depressants.
She uses exercise as an outlet and it has a noticeable effect (she went through a difficult patch when lockdown first came in and the gym closed). I do my best to encourage her to do activities that make her feel better and to be supportive. It can be difficult sometimes to understand how others are feeling, and sometimes I worry that I'm not very good at helping but you just keep trying
posted on 7/8/20
Brilliant article. There are many times when I struggle with my mental health. I really should open up a bit more because I bottle these things up and the missus usually ends up taking the brunt when it all comes out.
posted on 7/8/20
My step daughter suffers from Bi Polar.
She isn’t as bat $hit.crazy as Kanye West is but would be if her current trick cyclist hadn’t found that she had been incorrectly diagnosed previously and changed her meds.
posted on 7/8/20
Don't suffer and never have but I realise i'm lucky, I second ever word of whats already been said about reaching out, exercise and stigma.
This forum is anonymous and I think full of ordinary blokes who, might indulge the occasional wind-up, I'm pretty sure would back up any fellow poster if they wanted to talk.
Good OP.
posted on 7/8/20
I've had drug induced mental disorders for over 25 years now, double stigma! The amount of GPs that look down their nose at you when you mention that drugs (mainly LSD and MDMA) are the causes of your issues is quite stunning really (and very sad). I'm lucky enough to be able to afford private health care now.. I dread to think how my situation might have spiralled out of control if I had just given in to my first GP who treated me like something she had stood in.
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Ji Sung Park's Cousin - Ole's joy Manticore (U2958)
posted 1 minute ago
I've had drug induced mental disorders for over 25 years now, double stigma! The amount of GPs that look down their nose at you when you mention that drugs (mainly LSD and MDMA) are the causes of your issues is quite stunning really (and very sad). I'm lucky enough to be able to afford private health care now.. I dread to think how my situation might have spiralled out of control if I had just given in to my first GP who treated me like something she had stood in.
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Over here if you don't have private health insurance you won't get seen in the public system unless you are displaying stigmata or bleeding from the eyes
posted on 7/8/20
comment by welshpoolfan (U7693)
posted 12 minutes ago
Tough topic to raise. Well done.
My other half also suffers from mental health issues (depression and anxiety mainly) and has an ongoing prescription for anti-depressants.
She uses exercise as an outlet and it has a noticeable effect (she went through a difficult patch when lockdown first came in and the gym closed). I do my best to encourage her to do activities that make her feel better and to be supportive. It can be difficult sometimes to understand how others are feeling, and sometimes I worry that I'm not very good at helping but you just keep trying
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Your last sentence rings so true. Sometimes it'd be easier if she'd be in a wheelchair or something with regards knowing what you need to do on a daily basis. You do keep trying though although I will admit to feeling, at times, that I could do without the bother. That soon goes to be replaced by feelings of guilt for even thinking that.
posted on 7/8/20
comment by Diafol Coch 77 (U2462)
posted 2 minutes ago
comment by welshpoolfan (U7693)
posted 12 minutes ago
Tough topic to raise. Well done.
My other half also suffers from mental health issues (depression and anxiety mainly) and has an ongoing prescription for anti-depressants.
She uses exercise as an outlet and it has a noticeable effect (she went through a difficult patch when lockdown first came in and the gym closed). I do my best to encourage her to do activities that make her feel better and to be supportive. It can be difficult sometimes to understand how others are feeling, and sometimes I worry that I'm not very good at helping but you just keep trying
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Your last sentence rings so true. Sometimes it'd be easier if she'd be in a wheelchair or something with regards knowing what you need to do on a daily basis. You do keep trying though although I will admit to feeling, at times, that I could do without the bother. That soon goes to be replaced by feelings of guilt for even thinking that.
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I can't speak for everyone, but for me... Just having people around who are willing to put up with my bad spells is just amazing. I feel guilt for not being able to do certain things (like social events) or just not being able to communicate well etc... I also fully understand when she gets frustrated and needs a break from it all.
Just keep on supporting them, you are both doing great in your partners minds', i'm sure.
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