Pranks
Good man!
Not in a position to give back but full of respect and admiration of those that can. A friend of mines parents did it for years, suffered suicide and experienced fostered kids becoming doctors. Best of luck.
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Only foster child I know of is a girl who had issues herself, was fostered by a couple who aren't the brightest (many, many bizarre stories) and she has since had a child of her own who is currently in custody of the people who adopted her after she hit her daughter on an arranged visit as soon as her foster mother left the room.
From memory they adopted this girl 10-15 years ago and another girl at the same time but got rid of the other one after a while as she was practically feral and couldn't be controlled (and the dad is a massive control freak). I met this second child once and there was nothing behind the eyes. With both of them it didn't take long to realise something was amiss. Basic things such as right and wrong were alien to them or what was acceptable behaviour etc.
Still hear stories about the mum/dad and daughter now as my mum keeps in touch for god knows what reason and it's a perfect storm of insanity across the board. One theory is this couple became foster parents due to having terrible finances and realising they would get £20k (I think) per year per child. Maybe cynical but wouldn't surprise me in the least. For example they are currently on a 3 week cruise which they can't afford and have left their foster grandchild with a various number of babysitters and other family members for the duration.
Absolute mentalists.
Well done pranks. Just remember not to snitch on them when they misbehave
Fair play Pranks, great thing to do, big time respect
We discussed it a few times over the years as we have no children of our own, like considered the foreign adoption route for a child in need but given the amount we travel it would never be practical.
You have gone up 100 per cent in my estimation Pranks.
Nice comments saans.
Early days yet but feeling good about this.
I played monopoly with the boys until late, bankrupted them both
comment by There'sOnlyOneReds (U1721)
posted 9 hours, 49 minutes ago
Do you get to choose one that can cook? Or do you just get them with random skills?
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Funnily enough well not really but I’ve heard stories that many kids with addicts for parents have to be able to cook otherwise they won’t have hot meals.
comment by Pranks- European Champions (U6283)
posted 2 minutes ago
comment by There'sOnlyOneReds (U1721)
posted 9 hours, 49 minutes ago
Do you get to choose one that can cook? Or do you just get them with random skills?
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Funnily enough well not really but I’ve heard stories that many kids with addicts for parents have to be able to cook otherwise they won’t have hot meals.
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I can imagine. When my wife was growing up she had to go through school and university without eating as she had no money, then come home and cook with whatever she could find, as her mother was working late and her father was drinking somewhere.
So luckily for me she was well trained.
But yeah, respect for your deed. My wife had suggested it to me but her intentions weren't great. She wanted somebody for our son to play with, without going through the pregnancy and baby stuff again. I fecked her off.
It's a disgrace that there are kids who have to worry about things we take for granted, like simply having meals, simply because their selfish parents choose themselves over their kids. Luckily there are people like you around.
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My parents fostered when I was a teen. Be careful taking a kid for "a weekend" as that turned in to about 7 years with one we had. In the end my parents had to give up as they adopted my brother who we fostered from birth as he has a serious genetic condition. That and the fact that the boy we had at the time turned nasty (would be asked what he wanted for breakfast and would reply "fk off" meant it wasn't really sustainable anymore.
The biggest difficulty is that social workers tend to be rubbish (overworked rather than actually bad at their jobs in all fairness) and all the experienced carers who get paid more knew how to play the system and ended up refusing most of the challenging cases.
That's an accidental wink by the way. Very odd in context otherwise
comment by RJC (U17308)
posted 8 hours, 4 minutes ago
Only foster child I know of is a girl who had issues herself, was fostered by a couple who aren't the brightest (many, many bizarre stories) and she has since had a child of her own who is currently in custody of the people who adopted her after she hit her daughter on an arranged visit as soon as her foster mother left the room.
From memory they adopted this girl 10-15 years ago and another girl at the same time but got rid of the other one after a while as she was practically feral and couldn't be controlled (and the dad is a massive control freak). I met this second child once and there was nothing behind the eyes. With both of them it didn't take long to realise something was amiss. Basic things such as right and wrong were alien to them or what was acceptable behaviour etc.
Still hear stories about the mum/dad and daughter now as my mum keeps in touch for god knows what reason and it's a perfect storm of insanity across the board. One theory is this couple became foster parents due to having terrible finances and realising they would get £20k (I think) per year per child. Maybe cynical but wouldn't surprise me in the least. For example they are currently on a 3 week cruise which they can't afford and have left their foster grandchild with a various number of babysitters and other family members for the duration.
Absolute mentalists.
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20k per child . Don’t even get 20 pence an hour.
comment by KingKenny (U1961)
posted 10 minutes ago
My parents fostered when I was a teen. Be careful taking a kid for "a weekend" as that turned in to about 7 years with one we had. In the end my parents had to give up as they adopted my brother who we fostered from birth as he has a serious genetic condition. That and the fact that the boy we had at the time turned nasty (would be asked what he wanted for breakfast and would reply "fk off"meant it wasn't really sustainable anymore.
The biggest difficulty is that social workers tend to be rubbish (overworked rather than actually bad at their jobs in all fairness) and all the experienced carers who get paid more knew how to play the system and ended up refusing most of the challenging cases.
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Yeah heard plenty of horror stories. Luckily I’m being advised by my parents who have plenty of experience.
Well done your parents.
I'm doing it on a restbite basis however I have a feeling the SS want it to be a longterm thing as the kid is 12 and my 14 year old gets on with him.
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Restbite
Welcome to the Hall of Fame.
comment by Shinjury list (U1700)
posted 2 minutes ago
I'm doing it on a restbite basis however I have a feeling the SS want it to be a longterm thing as the kid is 12 and my 14 year old gets on with him.
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Restbite
Welcome to the Hall of Fame.
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Yeah I know mate
comment by Martial FC (U11781)
posted 11 hours, 55 minutes ago
We disagree on many things pranks but this is a very heartwarming thing to do. Huge thumbs up to you.
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Good folk can disagree about shiiiit, that’s the beauty of life
My parents did it when I was in my early teens. Used to come home from school and I’d have a new brother every few months so I guess they did it on an emergency basis.
Of the 4 or 5 who came into our family for a short time they were all great mates as far as I was concerned after just a few days. All of them though just wanted to be in a normal environment and I suppose we gave them that even for a transitory period.
Then one day I’d come back and the kid had gone again. My mum was always heartbroken and I’d lost a new mate.
It’s a tough shift from what little I recall so I can only wish you and yours all the very best of luck mate and be strong. It pulls at the heart.
No, I have never done it, or know much about it. But I think it's admirable, I hope you enjoy it and the child also. I can't imagine what it must be like to not have a stable home life growing up.
comment by manusince52 (U9692)
posted 5 minutes ago
No, I have never done it, or know much about it. But I think it's admirable, I hope you enjoy it and the child also. I can't imagine what it must be like to not have a stable home life growing up.
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yea even though my parents divorced when i was 11 I still had a good well provided childhood growing up.
sad to think what some kids go trough growing up when they be having the time of their life<sad>
My brother and his wife fostered for about 18years then took it back up for about 8 years after all his kids were grown up and moved out. Some of the situations he has encountered, really are harrowing. Kids from trafficked prostitutes, babies born addicted to opiates that cried 20/24 hours. Sometimes it's not unheard of for a mother two have had two kids whilst he is fostering the one that is taken in to care, so the mother isn't bothered about getting the foster kid returned.
Well done Pranks, you deserve any plaudits offered up.
comment by Admin1 (U1)
posted 8 minutes ago
My brother and his wife fostered for about 18years then took it back up for about 8 years after all his kids were grown up and moved out. Some of the situations he has encountered, really are harrowing. Kids from trafficked prostitutes, babies born addicted to opiates that cried 20/24 hours. Sometimes it's not unheard of for a mother two have had two kids whilst he is fostering the one that is taken in to care, so the mother isn't bothered about getting the foster kid returned.
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yeah I've heard some mad stories and experienced some first hand myself.
this wasn't planned however we know the child and he's always been very good when he's with us.
He's goes to a private school paid for by the state just down the road and gets good grades.
he attends from 8am-6pm so we don't have to worry about afterschool care as I'll pick him up on my way home from work.
He also gets on well with my youngest who is 2 years older.
admin, I guess you've come to know some of the kids in your brothers care, hopefully theres been a few success stories
comment by Pranks- European Champions (U6283)
posted 2 minutes ago
admin, I guess you've come to know some of the kids in your brothers care, hopefully theres been a few success stories
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of course, its not all doom and gloom. the kids are great.
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posted on 16/6/19
Pranks
Good man!
Not in a position to give back but full of respect and admiration of those that can. A friend of mines parents did it for years, suffered suicide and experienced fostered kids becoming doctors. Best of luck.
posted on 16/6/19
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posted on 16/6/19
Only foster child I know of is a girl who had issues herself, was fostered by a couple who aren't the brightest (many, many bizarre stories) and she has since had a child of her own who is currently in custody of the people who adopted her after she hit her daughter on an arranged visit as soon as her foster mother left the room.
From memory they adopted this girl 10-15 years ago and another girl at the same time but got rid of the other one after a while as she was practically feral and couldn't be controlled (and the dad is a massive control freak). I met this second child once and there was nothing behind the eyes. With both of them it didn't take long to realise something was amiss. Basic things such as right and wrong were alien to them or what was acceptable behaviour etc.
Still hear stories about the mum/dad and daughter now as my mum keeps in touch for god knows what reason and it's a perfect storm of insanity across the board. One theory is this couple became foster parents due to having terrible finances and realising they would get £20k (I think) per year per child. Maybe cynical but wouldn't surprise me in the least. For example they are currently on a 3 week cruise which they can't afford and have left their foster grandchild with a various number of babysitters and other family members for the duration.
Absolute mentalists.
posted on 16/6/19
Well done pranks. Just remember not to snitch on them when they misbehave
posted on 16/6/19
Fair play Pranks, great thing to do, big time respect
We discussed it a few times over the years as we have no children of our own, like considered the foreign adoption route for a child in need but given the amount we travel it would never be practical.
posted on 16/6/19
You have gone up 100 per cent in my estimation Pranks.
posted on 16/6/19
Nice comments saans.
Early days yet but feeling good about this.
I played monopoly with the boys until late, bankrupted them both
posted on 16/6/19
comment by There'sOnlyOneReds (U1721)
posted 9 hours, 49 minutes ago
Do you get to choose one that can cook? Or do you just get them with random skills?
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Funnily enough well not really but I’ve heard stories that many kids with addicts for parents have to be able to cook otherwise they won’t have hot meals.
posted on 16/6/19
comment by Pranks- European Champions (U6283)
posted 2 minutes ago
comment by There'sOnlyOneReds (U1721)
posted 9 hours, 49 minutes ago
Do you get to choose one that can cook? Or do you just get them with random skills?
----------------------------------------------------------------------Fu
Funnily enough well not really but I’ve heard stories that many kids with addicts for parents have to be able to cook otherwise they won’t have hot meals.
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I can imagine. When my wife was growing up she had to go through school and university without eating as she had no money, then come home and cook with whatever she could find, as her mother was working late and her father was drinking somewhere.
So luckily for me she was well trained.
But yeah, respect for your deed. My wife had suggested it to me but her intentions weren't great. She wanted somebody for our son to play with, without going through the pregnancy and baby stuff again. I fecked her off.
It's a disgrace that there are kids who have to worry about things we take for granted, like simply having meals, simply because their selfish parents choose themselves over their kids. Luckily there are people like you around.
posted on 16/6/19
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posted on 16/6/19
My parents fostered when I was a teen. Be careful taking a kid for "a weekend" as that turned in to about 7 years with one we had. In the end my parents had to give up as they adopted my brother who we fostered from birth as he has a serious genetic condition. That and the fact that the boy we had at the time turned nasty (would be asked what he wanted for breakfast and would reply "fk off" meant it wasn't really sustainable anymore.
The biggest difficulty is that social workers tend to be rubbish (overworked rather than actually bad at their jobs in all fairness) and all the experienced carers who get paid more knew how to play the system and ended up refusing most of the challenging cases.
posted on 16/6/19
That's an accidental wink by the way. Very odd in context otherwise
posted on 16/6/19
comment by RJC (U17308)
posted 8 hours, 4 minutes ago
Only foster child I know of is a girl who had issues herself, was fostered by a couple who aren't the brightest (many, many bizarre stories) and she has since had a child of her own who is currently in custody of the people who adopted her after she hit her daughter on an arranged visit as soon as her foster mother left the room.
From memory they adopted this girl 10-15 years ago and another girl at the same time but got rid of the other one after a while as she was practically feral and couldn't be controlled (and the dad is a massive control freak). I met this second child once and there was nothing behind the eyes. With both of them it didn't take long to realise something was amiss. Basic things such as right and wrong were alien to them or what was acceptable behaviour etc.
Still hear stories about the mum/dad and daughter now as my mum keeps in touch for god knows what reason and it's a perfect storm of insanity across the board. One theory is this couple became foster parents due to having terrible finances and realising they would get £20k (I think) per year per child. Maybe cynical but wouldn't surprise me in the least. For example they are currently on a 3 week cruise which they can't afford and have left their foster grandchild with a various number of babysitters and other family members for the duration.
Absolute mentalists.
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20k per child . Don’t even get 20 pence an hour.
posted on 16/6/19
comment by KingKenny (U1961)
posted 10 minutes ago
My parents fostered when I was a teen. Be careful taking a kid for "a weekend" as that turned in to about 7 years with one we had. In the end my parents had to give up as they adopted my brother who we fostered from birth as he has a serious genetic condition. That and the fact that the boy we had at the time turned nasty (would be asked what he wanted for breakfast and would reply "fk off"meant it wasn't really sustainable anymore.
The biggest difficulty is that social workers tend to be rubbish (overworked rather than actually bad at their jobs in all fairness) and all the experienced carers who get paid more knew how to play the system and ended up refusing most of the challenging cases.
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Yeah heard plenty of horror stories. Luckily I’m being advised by my parents who have plenty of experience.
Well done your parents.
posted on 16/6/19
I'm doing it on a restbite basis however I have a feeling the SS want it to be a longterm thing as the kid is 12 and my 14 year old gets on with him.
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Restbite
Welcome to the Hall of Fame.
posted on 16/6/19
comment by Shinjury list (U1700)
posted 2 minutes ago
I'm doing it on a restbite basis however I have a feeling the SS want it to be a longterm thing as the kid is 12 and my 14 year old gets on with him.
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Restbite
Welcome to the Hall of Fame.
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Yeah I know mate
posted on 16/6/19
comment by Martial FC (U11781)
posted 11 hours, 55 minutes ago
We disagree on many things pranks but this is a very heartwarming thing to do. Huge thumbs up to you.
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Good folk can disagree about shiiiit, that’s the beauty of life
posted on 16/6/19
My parents did it when I was in my early teens. Used to come home from school and I’d have a new brother every few months so I guess they did it on an emergency basis.
Of the 4 or 5 who came into our family for a short time they were all great mates as far as I was concerned after just a few days. All of them though just wanted to be in a normal environment and I suppose we gave them that even for a transitory period.
Then one day I’d come back and the kid had gone again. My mum was always heartbroken and I’d lost a new mate.
It’s a tough shift from what little I recall so I can only wish you and yours all the very best of luck mate and be strong. It pulls at the heart.
posted on 16/6/19
No, I have never done it, or know much about it. But I think it's admirable, I hope you enjoy it and the child also. I can't imagine what it must be like to not have a stable home life growing up.
posted on 16/6/19
comment by manusince52 (U9692)
posted 5 minutes ago
No, I have never done it, or know much about it. But I think it's admirable, I hope you enjoy it and the child also. I can't imagine what it must be like to not have a stable home life growing up.
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yea even though my parents divorced when i was 11 I still had a good well provided childhood growing up.
sad to think what some kids go trough growing up when they be having the time of their life<sad>
posted on 16/6/19
My brother and his wife fostered for about 18years then took it back up for about 8 years after all his kids were grown up and moved out. Some of the situations he has encountered, really are harrowing. Kids from trafficked prostitutes, babies born addicted to opiates that cried 20/24 hours. Sometimes it's not unheard of for a mother two have had two kids whilst he is fostering the one that is taken in to care, so the mother isn't bothered about getting the foster kid returned.
posted on 16/6/19
Well done Pranks, you deserve any plaudits offered up.
posted on 16/6/19
comment by Admin1 (U1)
posted 8 minutes ago
My brother and his wife fostered for about 18years then took it back up for about 8 years after all his kids were grown up and moved out. Some of the situations he has encountered, really are harrowing. Kids from trafficked prostitutes, babies born addicted to opiates that cried 20/24 hours. Sometimes it's not unheard of for a mother two have had two kids whilst he is fostering the one that is taken in to care, so the mother isn't bothered about getting the foster kid returned.
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yeah I've heard some mad stories and experienced some first hand myself.
this wasn't planned however we know the child and he's always been very good when he's with us.
He's goes to a private school paid for by the state just down the road and gets good grades.
he attends from 8am-6pm so we don't have to worry about afterschool care as I'll pick him up on my way home from work.
He also gets on well with my youngest who is 2 years older.
posted on 16/6/19
admin, I guess you've come to know some of the kids in your brothers care, hopefully theres been a few success stories
posted on 16/6/19
comment by Pranks- European Champions (U6283)
posted 2 minutes ago
admin, I guess you've come to know some of the kids in your brothers care, hopefully theres been a few success stories
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of course, its not all doom and gloom. the kids are great.
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