comment by Earl * * Klich and Collect (U9333)
posted 31 minutes ago
Whatever else you do it is vital you talk to someone, whether it be family, friends or seek profesional help
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Also exercise is a brilliant way of taking your mind off all the problems in life.
Good luck and you will feel better soon
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+1 for exercise it is really good at lifting the spirits, particularly exercise that puts your heart to 80%+ heart rate
Stay strong buddy.
Try to find any trigger points... lack of sleep, stress, too much screen time, lack of sun etc
Obviously the family stuff is playing on your mind a lot, but there are probably other factors that are making things worse.
I can sometimes get in a very dark place without even knowing it... only after I come out of that episode do I realise how bad it was... The mind is a very complex thing.
comment by N2 (U22280)
posted 10 hours, 25 minutes ago
It could be the rift with your parents, or maybe it's some of the football we've been playing. Either way, you're going to have to attempt to solve this family problem. All the best.
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OP have you discussed it with your wife?
Talking helps.
If you haven't, try talking to her first and go from there.
My fiance is a surprisingly good councillor!
Like someone here said, you don't know what you got till it's gone. The way I live my life is, I prefer not to be at arms with people for long periods because life can end at any moment - that includes family. The regret of not sorting something out and not being able to sort it out (because those people are gone) is the one of the worst feelings I've ever experienced.
Not everyone is the same but just trying to help
Also covid19 and lockdown has mentally effected a lot of people. You're not alone
Nothing better for the soul than a heartfelt apology.
I’ve done it even when I’ve not been in the wrong just for the ability to move on.
When the people you love are on their deathbeds, you’ll know that these squabbles really aren’t worth it.
Cook them all a nice meal and start being a family again.
Just seen this now and I don't think there's much to add really to what people have already said.
As people have said try to make peace with your family as they'll want to do that with you I'm sure as well. From experience though what I wouldn't do is have the situation all go one way. There will be compromise required on both sides and if it's just you making the effort then perhaps step back and try again when you feel more up for it.
I wish you the best of luck with things. 2021 is hopefully going to be a much better year and you've plenty to look forward to (hopefully more Pidier classics) and plenty left to achieve.
Check in here at any time and I'm sure there will always be someone to help.
Hi mate.
Like everybody says the only thing you can really do is apologize and know that youve done what you can to solve it at your end.
Ive had some tough days in the past and ive always kept it in and on the pretty horrific days ive felt the same as you do. Its that overall feeling of loneliness i think that gets to you.
Covid times clearly doesnt help due to the isolation but what has really helped me out is remembering the good days.
As Mary Engelbreit or Johnny Depp or whoever it was once said, ' Its just a bad day, not a bad life'
I would say make up with your family. Unless it’s something massive that made you fall out, offer an olive branch and get back on track.
If anything this year has shown many of us that life is just too short to hold grudges.
My wife’s best friend, for example, was fine this time last year. She felt a bit down in March, went to the doctors and was told she had terminal cancer. She’s now in hospice care at home and we are waiting for the inevitable phone call.
It’s easy to say “bite the bullet” but obviously I don’t know the circumstances so wouldn’t say that to you.
I hope you get it sorted. Maybe Xmas is a good time?
Yorkshire Red - There's been some good advice on here already and I'm certainly no expert.
I just wanted to say well done for opening up on here.
Whilst most of us aren't experts, we are humans and can offer support or encouragement.
Small steps forward mate.
Definitely speak to a professional and see if that helps and even share your OP with your family - they're probably deeply upset about the fallout too and it's amazing how quickly things are forgotten.
Good luck mate
Some really good advice and comments on this thread.
As most have said talking to someone is really good - and fair play to you for taking the steps with this article. It doesn’t stop there though; continuing to talk, address the issue and find the true root cause of the issues is important. Which many professionals can help with - hope and know all will work out
A heartfelt thank you to all of you. Yeah, I'm just going to offer an olive branch and make peace with them all. Really appreciate all your comments. My dad came over to one of our warehouses today after a long time and seemed quite calm. So that was definitely a plus point. Hoping to patch things up and get everything back to normal.
comment by Yorkshire Red (U22022)
posted 1 hour, 1 minute ago
A heartfelt thank you to all of you. Yeah, I'm just going to offer an olive branch and make peace with them all. Really appreciate all your comments. My dad came over to one of our warehouses today after a long time and seemed quite calm. So that was definitely a plus point. Hoping to patch things up and get everything back to normal.
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If both you and your family want to make up then you will I'm sure. Good luck.
Communication really is the key to all relationships.
What you think your family think and what they actually think are probably completely different and the same with them and you.
Good luck - one step forward at a time.
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Give it some time, give each other some space, join a gym (or any hobby you're interested in) and then just see if you can enjoy yourself with your family over Christmas.
With your jobs, it will always sound stressful, regardless of Covid so maybe that has subconsciously taken it's toll on you over the months, who knows.
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Not a bunch bunch on here really.
Remember to m*sturbate before making any life changing decisions. If it still seems like a good idea immediately post nut then it probably is.
Be honest mate, is this whole article one big metaphor for being a United supporter? Is the family Man United and the work being a supporter? That’s just how it is being a United fan these days.
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posted on 15/12/20
comment by Earl * * Klich and Collect (U9333)
posted 31 minutes ago
Whatever else you do it is vital you talk to someone, whether it be family, friends or seek profesional help
.
Also exercise is a brilliant way of taking your mind off all the problems in life.
Good luck and you will feel better soon
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+1 for exercise it is really good at lifting the spirits, particularly exercise that puts your heart to 80%+ heart rate
posted on 15/12/20
Stay strong buddy.
Try to find any trigger points... lack of sleep, stress, too much screen time, lack of sun etc
Obviously the family stuff is playing on your mind a lot, but there are probably other factors that are making things worse.
I can sometimes get in a very dark place without even knowing it... only after I come out of that episode do I realise how bad it was... The mind is a very complex thing.
posted on 15/12/20
comment by N2 (U22280)
posted 10 hours, 25 minutes ago
It could be the rift with your parents, or maybe it's some of the football we've been playing. Either way, you're going to have to attempt to solve this family problem. All the best.
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OP have you discussed it with your wife?
Talking helps.
If you haven't, try talking to her first and go from there.
My fiance is a surprisingly good councillor!
Like someone here said, you don't know what you got till it's gone. The way I live my life is, I prefer not to be at arms with people for long periods because life can end at any moment - that includes family. The regret of not sorting something out and not being able to sort it out (because those people are gone) is the one of the worst feelings I've ever experienced.
Not everyone is the same but just trying to help
Also covid19 and lockdown has mentally effected a lot of people. You're not alone
posted on 15/12/20
Nothing better for the soul than a heartfelt apology.
I’ve done it even when I’ve not been in the wrong just for the ability to move on.
When the people you love are on their deathbeds, you’ll know that these squabbles really aren’t worth it.
Cook them all a nice meal and start being a family again.
posted on 15/12/20
Just seen this now and I don't think there's much to add really to what people have already said.
As people have said try to make peace with your family as they'll want to do that with you I'm sure as well. From experience though what I wouldn't do is have the situation all go one way. There will be compromise required on both sides and if it's just you making the effort then perhaps step back and try again when you feel more up for it.
I wish you the best of luck with things. 2021 is hopefully going to be a much better year and you've plenty to look forward to (hopefully more Pidier classics) and plenty left to achieve.
Check in here at any time and I'm sure there will always be someone to help.
posted on 15/12/20
Hi mate.
Like everybody says the only thing you can really do is apologize and know that youve done what you can to solve it at your end.
Ive had some tough days in the past and ive always kept it in and on the pretty horrific days ive felt the same as you do. Its that overall feeling of loneliness i think that gets to you.
Covid times clearly doesnt help due to the isolation but what has really helped me out is remembering the good days.
As Mary Engelbreit or Johnny Depp or whoever it was once said, ' Its just a bad day, not a bad life'
posted on 15/12/20
I would say make up with your family. Unless it’s something massive that made you fall out, offer an olive branch and get back on track.
If anything this year has shown many of us that life is just too short to hold grudges.
My wife’s best friend, for example, was fine this time last year. She felt a bit down in March, went to the doctors and was told she had terminal cancer. She’s now in hospice care at home and we are waiting for the inevitable phone call.
It’s easy to say “bite the bullet” but obviously I don’t know the circumstances so wouldn’t say that to you.
I hope you get it sorted. Maybe Xmas is a good time?
posted on 15/12/20
Yorkshire Red - There's been some good advice on here already and I'm certainly no expert.
I just wanted to say well done for opening up on here.
Whilst most of us aren't experts, we are humans and can offer support or encouragement.
Small steps forward mate.
Definitely speak to a professional and see if that helps and even share your OP with your family - they're probably deeply upset about the fallout too and it's amazing how quickly things are forgotten.
Good luck mate
posted on 15/12/20
YorkRed
posted on 15/12/20
Some really good advice and comments on this thread.
As most have said talking to someone is really good - and fair play to you for taking the steps with this article. It doesn’t stop there though; continuing to talk, address the issue and find the true root cause of the issues is important. Which many professionals can help with - hope and know all will work out
posted on 15/12/20
A heartfelt thank you to all of you. Yeah, I'm just going to offer an olive branch and make peace with them all. Really appreciate all your comments. My dad came over to one of our warehouses today after a long time and seemed quite calm. So that was definitely a plus point. Hoping to patch things up and get everything back to normal.
posted on 15/12/20
comment by Yorkshire Red (U22022)
posted 1 hour, 1 minute ago
A heartfelt thank you to all of you. Yeah, I'm just going to offer an olive branch and make peace with them all. Really appreciate all your comments. My dad came over to one of our warehouses today after a long time and seemed quite calm. So that was definitely a plus point. Hoping to patch things up and get everything back to normal.
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If both you and your family want to make up then you will I'm sure. Good luck.
posted on 15/12/20
Communication really is the key to all relationships.
What you think your family think and what they actually think are probably completely different and the same with them and you.
Good luck - one step forward at a time.
posted on 15/12/20
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posted on 15/12/20
Give it some time, give each other some space, join a gym (or any hobby you're interested in) and then just see if you can enjoy yourself with your family over Christmas.
With your jobs, it will always sound stressful, regardless of Covid so maybe that has subconsciously taken it's toll on you over the months, who knows.
posted on 15/12/20
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posted on 15/12/20
Not a bunch bunch on here really.
posted on 15/12/20
Remember to m*sturbate before making any life changing decisions. If it still seems like a good idea immediately post nut then it probably is.
posted on 15/12/20
Be honest mate, is this whole article one big metaphor for being a United supporter? Is the family Man United and the work being a supporter? That’s just how it is being a United fan these days.
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