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i think its such a young age to decide what you want to do in life and to put such pressure on them.

I got enough highers to get to uni, i went to college instead and done a hnc, then hnd and then went onto uni.

qualified for a job i don't want nor had any interest in, though that was ten years ago, i can put it on my cv, but i would have some cheek.

he got highers, which is more than most will or have, i imagine the best thing you can do is take him aside and congratulate him on his results, so that he knows that getting a B isnt easy.

feel for you mate, I still have that to come mind.

what is it he is wanting to do with himself? I was in same boat, worked my ar$e off in 5th and my results did not go my way, I ended up bumming about for a few years before getting my act together when I was 21 and starting training to join police

I fully regret not opting to learn a trade when I was young and although I did ok in police getting a promotion, I do have some regrets about bumming about for a few years when young

Tough when they don't get what they want.

I'm on the other side, my eldest had told me for ages she hasn't done that well so don't expect much, text this morning, 2 A's and 4 B's
Delighted.

Far too much pressure on them at this age.

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the important thing just now is to keep his spirits up, it will enhance his drive for next year. he done well, he should know that.

I still congratulated him this morning, sent him a message since to tell him that 4 Highers was still a good achievement and will take him out for his dinner tonight but you just feel these are tokenistic gestures when he must be feeling crushed.

I am sitting here in Uni trying to finish my final project of my entire degree course. It is due in on Friday, and I am on here posting away.

I am starting to appreciate how much harder it is for kids nowadays than it was when we were in school. Even though I am locked in the library, the amount of distractions available on my screen make it impossible to fully concentrate on the work.

he'll get over it, what did he need?

If he got the grades needed for uni and gets a degree it wont matter about his highers.

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He was wanting to go to St Andrews to do a combination of History/English. The reality is he will probably still make that course at another Uni but not of his choice.

The good thing is he still has his sixth year to go.

i would hate to mark one of micks papers, especially if the question began "discuss"

nightmare.

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he can look at it this way btg, the ones were he got a C, he knows more now than he did this year, if he resits he can focus on the areas he struggled.

It's certainly not the be all and end all. Far too much focus is on getting the best school grades and getting to University for 4 years. I know plenty of people who have done so and worked extremely hard but don't really get anything out of it job wise at the end of the day. On the other hand I know people who didn;t do well at all but have decent jobs.

What's for you won't go by you and all that.

No point dwelling on the past as it will only depress you.

alternatively take him to the strippers as a reward.

tits n muff when life gets tough.

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i think its such a young age to decide what you want to do in life and to put such pressure on them.

I got enough highers to get to uni, i went to college instead and done a hnc, then hnd and then went onto uni.

qualified for a job i don't want nor had any interest in, though that was ten years ago, i can put it on my cv, but i would have some cheek.

he got highers, which is more than most will or have, i imagine the best thing you can do is take him aside and congratulate him on his results, so that he knows that getting a B isnt easy.
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I done very similar.

My higher results were a little disappointing, they would have been enough for me to do the course I wanted to do, but at Edinburgh rather than my first choice of Glasgow. So rather than stay for a 6th year, I went to college done a HND then went into the second year of the degree course straight from that. I ended up in the exact same position anyway.

Turned out that I hated that line of work, quit after 6 months then bummed around abroad for a decade.

I don't think that your exam results really end up mattering much.

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On the plus side it's a life lesson about the need to graft and he's got another opportunity. Hopefully it triggers a 'so that's whit that ol' bassa was on aboot all those years' response. He's got the extra year to achieve the grades he needs/wants. He also should now understand the work it'll take next year.

Exactly the same happened to me and it meant I left school after 6th year instead of 5th for Uni. In hindsight it was a good thing - an extra year to grow up (a bit!) and a shock to the system were what I needed. Gave me drive and focus and set me up for my degree and PhD.

It'll be scant consolation to the lad though at the moment. Best of luck to him in his next choices.

BTG

It was a few years ago now but in my 5th year I never put in the necessary work that I was told I'd need to do to get the Higher marks I wanted and needed to go to Uni.

I had breezed through my Standard Grades and expected to do the same. It was a tough lesson for me that only poor grades could have gave me.

It was a wake up call for me for 6th year where I resat some and got the A's and B's I wanted.

In the end I opted not to go to uni and turned down my place.

Sometimes we can tell kids the warnings but we only really learn through personal adversity.

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